Greed or Quality Control?
That was going to be the title of this post at first. Or Altrusism vs. Pettiness
I have a martial conundrum.
I was recently approached by a very well meaning martial arts instructor who wanted help in developing/designing a self-defense class for his martial arts school (where he is a lead instructor, not an owner).
I agreed to meet with him and see what ideas he had. I firmly believe that the 'end-game' in martial arts should be to help others, and in many ways, that should be reward enough.
I met with him and we sat down to chat about martial arts, specifically self-defense.
This instructor is very skilled in his chosen martial art. I had to give him credit, he knows his stuff. Just as importantly, he also knows what he does not know. He had very little idea where to start with a self-defense specific class. He wanted to draw on my experience and skill set to help.
After chatting for the better part of an hour, a couple of things became quite clear.
1. He really did have no idea where to start.
2. He wanted me to provide all the material.
So, when I say he wanted me to provide all the material, I mean just that. He wanted to do design, develop, and maybe even deliver the product once. Or show him how to deliver it.
So what's the problem?
I find myself struggling with how to handle this.
On one hand, I want to help people learn how to defend themselves from real violence.
On the other, I don't want to just give away all my material to someone and walk away. I've spent a long time working on researching violence, selecting and tweaking effective techniques and developing teaching methodologies to put together what I believe to be a realistic and effective program.
This is still a work in progress but the major 'guts' of it already exist.
To this instructor's credit, again, he was interesting in having me deliver the program the first time, and not for free. He wanted to watch and then take over teaching it from that point on.
I'm uncomfortable with this. I don't know him that well and I have concerns he wouldn't deliver it in the way that I would. A good self-defense program is reliant not only on techniques and concepts, but in the instructor's ability to deliver it and have the lessons 'stick'. If you can't retain what you've learned past the lesson, it's of no value.
Am I being petty? Greedy? Have I lost sight of the true meaning of the martial arts?
Or am I just concerned about people not receiving training that they could actually use to save their lives or protect them or their loved ones from injury?
I don't want a watered down version of my material being delivered.
Long term readers of this blog will know that I've often pondered whether or not it's ok to make money from the martial arts. In the spirit of openness, I would like one day to be able to supplement my income somewhat through teaching self-defense.
So, in some ways, this could be an opportunity to show my stuff, as it were, in an established club. But...
Luckily, I have a bit of time to decide what to do. The instructor in question didn't really even know who the target audience was, how long the program would be, if it would be an ongoing thing every week or a program with a start and end date, for example 6 weeks, once a week etc.
The target audience changes the way in which a program is delivered. I would take a different approach teaching seasoned martial artist than I would people who have done little or no training at all.
I've left it that he needs to put together a shell of what he wants to deliver, and to who, before I could really weigh in on it.
This much I know. I want to help, in some capacity. But should I turn over the keys to the kingdom? (wow, I'm being dramatic...).
Should I just say no?
Should I consult on his material only?
Should I give him my whole program and hope for the best?
Should I deliver it once but not turn over the supporting material and hope for the best?
Should I give a one day seminar and see if they want to hire me for the rest?
Or are there other options?
Should I copy-write my material? Register a business? Develop a train-the-trainer program?
Am I losing sight of the big picture? Am I over thinking all this?
Monday, September 21, 2015
Saturday, March 14, 2015
I clicked a link over at Kojutsukan to a t.v. interview/panel discussion on pain.
To summarize, two elite athletes, one in Cricket and the other a boxer, discuss pain, or the lack of pain, that they experience during their chosen sport/profession.
The boxer discusses how she has only been hurt or felt significant pain twice in her fighting career. She was aware she was being punched in the face but it didn’t really hurt.
Is she superhuman? Immune to pain?
No. She goes on to say that she feels agony when she stubs her toe at home.
There are panel guest who explore the why’s and how’s of it all. I watched a good deal of it. Here’s the link, if you're interested.
Well, it got me thinking...
People experience pain in varying degrees and in varying situations. This stands to reason.
If you are training to survive a violent encounter, you must factor in the fact that you and your opponent may experience pain, or my not experience pain, during combat.
Bottom line, if you are fighting for preservation in a real world attack, the techniques you’ve practiced that hurt like hell during controlled, partial power practice, may have little or no effect on your attacker. This will be exacerbated by the attacker’s level of commitment, focus, anger and adrenaline.
Pain is an interesting thing. As Dalton said in Roadhouse “Pain don’t hurt”.
Many people practicing martial arts have never been hit, not really been hit. Hopefully most people won’t ever be assaulted by someone who is really trying to hurt them. But if you are, you may feel pain, or you may feel numbness, or confusion, or a combination of these sensations.
I’ve been on the receiving end of a couple good hits in my lifetime. While shocking to a degree, I did not feel pain, per say. I was acutely aware that I had been hit hard, possibly injured, but the actual acute pain didn’t set in until a while later, when the situation was resolved.
The experience is quite off-putting, to say the least, and if you aren’t prepared for the shocking nature, you may naturally sort of ‘shut-down’, covering up (natural to a degree) as opposed to defending yourself. There are a lot of videos on-line where you observe people just kind of ‘taking it”. It’s tempting to ask why they just stand there or cower and continue to receive a beating.
Like so many things, you have to prepare yourself mentally. If you haven’t been hit before, understand that it might hurt or it might not but it will be a jarring experience. Visualize receiving this shocking blow and use the mental rehearsal to create a trigger or response stimulus. For those of you who have experience, do the same. Use it like the gun going off to signal the start of a race. The race in this case being your survival.
Beyond your own reaction, be aware that your attacker may be less fazed by your defense than you anticipate. They may not be stopped by a well-placed strike or two. If they are on drugs or alcohol, their pain centers may be further impeded.
This is why, when training for the worst case scenario, the situation you couldn’t extricate yourself from safety, you need to make sure your training is effective, brutally effective.
Any training for realistic self-perseveration should include techniques that do real damage.
Consider joint locks and breaks and attacks to vulnerable targets like eyes and throat.
Even if your attacker doesn’t feel pain, you need to disable their attack ‘delivery system’. If they can’t stand or their limb or hands are disabled, or they can’t breathe or see, then they are less able to injure you and you are more likely to be able to create an opportunity to get away to safety and get help.
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again. Real violence is ugly and nasty. Make sure that your training and mindset is prepared to match this reality.
I posted some time ago about pain compliance techniques and when they can (and can't) be used effectively. Click here and here.
More reading on pain:
Wednesday, March 4, 2015
I just discovered a 'spam' folder - where comments go that Blogger thinks might be suspicious. I found a few kind comments from friends of this blog. I was touched and promptly marked them all as "not spam", as I planned to respond to them.
Well, they disappeared from view in the spam folder and I now have no idea where they went.
Soooo... for those of you who took the time to leave a comment or kind word and never heard back from me, I apologize. But thanks.
Oh, and here's a cool quote (I think from Buddha):
Thursday, February 26, 2015
To go or not to go…with the throw. That is the question...
When you learn to do throws and break fall, you need to be pretty cautious. You need your partner to be cooperative on both ends of the equation. If you don’t then one of you is likely to get hurt.
Once you get the hang of the mechanics, though, you need to start adjusting your technique. When you are the one being thrown, it is easy to get in the habit of assisting your partner by ‘jumping’ into the throw even if it’s not being executed properly. While a certain degree of cooperative effort is required, if you regularly leap into throws, you are doing your training partner a disservice.
A properly executed throw requires 'kuzushi', the breaking of the balance of the "throw-ee”. When done properly, the person being thrown literally falls over you, and you just assist them in trajectory and force. If you program yourself to assist too much, your partner will never master kuzushi.
In the real world, you either need this balance breaking or you need to ‘muscle’ the technique, which isn’t normally a good idea. It tends to involve twisting and lifting at the same time, a nasty combination and a good recipe for injury.
Even if you do break someone’s balance, they may not react as smoothly as a trained uke. You need to discover what it feels like if someone lilts to one side as they go over so you can learn to adapt and finish the technique effectively.
Don’t forget the fact that most throws and break falls are performed for the benefit of the one being thrown.
When you examine most throws, the actual damaging portion usually occurs previous to the person hitting the ground. The throw/break-fall is meant to protect the person being thrown.
When you break down the throws, you’ll discover that there is normally a break of an arm or dislocation of a shoulder or other joint prior to the person going airborne.
In fact, if you were to actually perform one of these techniques for real, there’s a fairly good chance that the person would appear more to crumple than to majestically fly through the air.
When practicing throws, keep both points in mind. As the thrower, the end goal is not always a big throw, and as a throw-ee, don’t be too quick to ‘go with it’.
Both are problematic.
Food for thought.
Tuesday, February 24, 2015
I want to wish Sue at Journey to Black Belt all the best as she signs off her excellent blog.
She has a ton of excellent posts and we’ve had several great discussions/debates over the last few years. Maintaining a blog takes a lot of time and energy and she is pursuing some other interests and dreams. Good for her.
If you haven’t done so already, there’s a lot of great material over there. Take a look here. You'll be happy you did.
Sue, thanks again for all the support and food for thought. Hope you're back one day...
Wednesday, February 18, 2015
When we look for a Sensei or a teacher, we search for certain traits, personality, knowledge and characteristics. Often times we can only get a glimpse watching or taking a trial class. One of the best ways to judge a teacher is to observe the students, on and off the mats. Are they friendly, welcoming, serious about their training with a sense of humour or are they arrogant, unfriendly, or aloof? This tends to be reflective of the teacher.
But what does a good teacher actually look like? If you had to pick based largely on physical appearance, who would you choose? And how much are you influenced, consciously or unconsciously, by how a Sensei looks?
At first glance (pun intended), you’ll likely want to respond that a person’s appearance has nothing to do with your selection criteria. After all, we’re all striving for perfection of character in our studies, right?
Truth be told, we all have our biases. This isn’t always a bad thing. It’s part of the human condition. Some are based on a survival instinct. Many we have ingrained at a subconscious level. Some of these unconscious biases are incongruous with our conscious positions or beliefs. Our society and the media have programmed us to respond to certain physical characteristics.
So what does this have to do with selecting a martial arts teacher? Who do we naturally gravitate towards?
As I mentioned, our unconscious, or subconscious biases, are often at odds with our consciously held beliefs.
No? Pop quiz:
1. Male, 40’s, muscular and lean, military or MMA background
2. Female, 40’s, short and a tiny bit plump, works as a mid level manager in a
You’ve now got a picture in your head.
So, who’s the better pick to teach self defense? We could all answer that it doesn’t matter as long as they had the knowledge, skills and abilities but without an extended period of time observing or being taught, we have a tendency to assign value to factors that may or may not be accurate.
If you picked number 1, are you now defending your position because of his background? That’s fine, but if I hadn’t mentioned the military or MMA background, would your initial pick have changed from the fit male to the shorter, 'softer' female? This isn’t an attack or criticism, simply something to think about.
Even if we’re able to logically and consciously dispense with gender and physical traits, could we still be influenced unconsciously?
The curious thing is that we often respect or seek out martial arts teachers that are, well, bad asses. Impressive physical specimens, who look tough, even a little intimidating. The type of guy (or gal) that looks like they could kick our butts.
There’s nothing really wrong with that. We want to learn from people that we figure could easily ‘take us' in a fight. You don’t seek out someone to teach you that you believe you could easily beat in a physical altercation. You want to learn to be tough from someone who is tough, tougher than you. You want to learn to be just as tough, tougher.
But what does that really mean? Are we potentially ruling out people who may have more to offer than we initially think?
Who, as a teacher is really more impressive? And what do we hope to learn? If our true goal is to learn to deal with real violence and to survive if attacked, who should we look to? Should we pick the big, strong, amazingly fit person, of the more average one?
When weighing our options, we need to make sure we balance all the factors. What’s actually more impressive, someone more physically fit that you are doing a technique on you effectively, or someone less imposing doing the same?
In styles such as Jiu Jitsu, you use your opponent’s energy and force against them. It is an effective martial art for learning how to defeat a bigger, more powerful attacker. Sometimes referred to as the “gentle art” – ha!
How, then, you answer the question of who’s more impressive?
The vast majority of time, the smaller, less powerful individual will have a higher level of skill in their technique. They won’t have the luxury of being able to ‘power through’ a poor application of technique to compensate. They will often be superior in the way they teach as they had to learn it properly right from the start. There are no cutting corners; you have to learn to do it right or you’re in trouble.
Back to the pop quiz.
Obviously, there was not nearly enough information to make a proper assessment, and gender was thrown in as a means for a little introspection, but the fact remains - It may be better to seek out someone of lesser physical stature who has learned his or her art to such a level that they can effectively defend themselves and teach others, as opposed to a genetically gifted athlete.
Those that have had to work harder for their accomplishments are often better teachers and more skilled than the ‘naturals’.
Appearances can be deceiving.
Picture Morihei Ueshiba, especially later in his life. You could argue he didn’t look very intimidating physically. Imagine you passed on training with him due to his somewhat diminutive status as compared to many other ‘tough guys’.
It may be better to seek out someone who can effectively defend themselves when they’re at their worst, as opposed to someone at their best and at their peak.
A short, heavy, injured person who can take defend themselves may have more to teach you than an elite athlete in their prime that can do 10 minute rounds without breaking a sweat.
Obviously, physical fitness is an important component of martial arts training, and it can only make things easier for you. For pure quality of technique and teaching effectiveness, however, it may not be the only pre-requisite.
Keep an open mind.
An important lesson in the martial arts. And in life...